Wednesday, April 26, 2006

Busy, busy, busy

Today I have to
  • Get the boys to school
  • Return a DVD (disk 2 of 2; I only returned 1)
  • Go to the grocery store
  • Volunteer in N's class
  • Call S's allergist
  • Call lumber wholesaler
  • Call contractor about repairing deck
  • Call "tree guy"
  • Do 2 loads of laundry
  • Tie up bundles of forsythia for recycling
  • Plant astilbe and liriope
  • Take N to counseling
And more, I'm sure. TTYL.

Updated, 7:19 p.m. -- Wow! I had a productive day!
  • Got the boys to school
  • Returned the DVD
  • Went to the grocery store
  • Volunteered in N's class
  • Called S's allergist (appointment tomorrow morning at 9 a.m.)
  • Called lumber wholesaler
  • Couldn't call contractor about repairing deck, because the wholesaler never got back to me
  • Called "tree guy"
  • Did 2 loads of laundry
  • Tied up bundles of forsythia for recycling
  • Did not plant astilbe and liriope -- well, nobody is perfect!
  • Took N to counseling
The counselor confirms the positive changes I've seen in N the last few weeks, saying that he is much more upbeat and open. He is really TALKING with her a lot, and when we're in there together, he asks me all kinds of questions that take my breath away -- about things I knew he wondered about, but on a level I hadn't been expecting. The big news -- !!! -- is that he approves of MB and thinks it would be a good thing if we got married. ROFLMAO. I laugh because N has been one of my biggest concerns and MB has considered him something of an enigma: "S, I can deal with, but N... I just don't know what to make of him." Now, I'm not going to let N make any decisions for MB and me, but it sure does ease my worries a bit.

N's main concern, what was drilled into me over and over today, is that he needs more information. More information. More information. Given his introspective nature, this does not surprise me. I just have to figure out what to tell him and how. Such an interesting journey parenthood is, even more so when it is interwoven with the WidowRoad.
Posted by Alicia at 8:27 AM

3 comments:

  1. Dear Pentha, a friend sent me your blog - It has been nice reading it - thank you. My husband died 2 1/2 weeks ago - I'm lost, hard to get out of bed, my mind is gone...
    Can you send me some sites that might help? I so lonely - the only calls I get are from people I owe medical bills to. My husband left no life insurance. My husband - my hero - my best friend of 16 years - who struggled with non-hodgkins lymphoma for 10 months, we were told he was in "total remission" then died 4 weeks later in his reclyner/rocker.
    Help
    slanperti3105@charter.net (Sally)

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  2. Sally, I sent you an email, with a few web addresses -- the ywbb, widownet, groww. If any of my Four Faithful Readers have other resources, please pass them along.

    -- Pentha, wishing you all a measure of peace today

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  3. For Sally, the YWBB kept me going in my darkest hours. I am sorry for your loss. I have met so many wonderful people there (many in person at Bagos I have attended).

    For Pentha, I am so happy for you. As a mother, you are "programmed" to worry about your children. I am sure Nick is smiling with delight that you are doing the job of two parents and grieving his death. You are a wonderful mother and an amazing woman, and a Brat, LOL. OH, and I love you.

    MB

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